Persecutors, Victims, and Rescuers: How to Deal with Psychological Games Players

Learn how to spot people who play mind games and keep their attempts at sabotage and manipulation from getting under your skin.

Introduction

• Dealing with psychological game players

1. Theory Behind Games Players

• Parent, adult, child
• Okay and not okay
• Aggression

2. How Games Work

• What's a game?
• Within families
• The three positions
• Why play games?

3. The Top 20 Games

• Only trying to help
• Yes...but
• Blemish
• Let's you and them fight
• Harried
• Kick me
• Wooden leg
• Brown stamp collector
• Gold stamp collector
• Only joking
• Schlemiel
• What you made me do
• Now I've got you!
• Grudges
• Sulking
• Ain't it awful
• If it weren't for you
• Maybe = yes
• Mine's better
• Patronizing
• A few examples

4. Ways to Deal with Games

• Introduction
• Withdraw
• Live with it
• Remain adult
• Be assertive
• Exposing them
• Playing along

Conclusion

• Next steps